Whether you are building the emotional muscle to realise you live with domestic violence, or the courage to leave, or the daily strength to recover and continue protecting yourself, or whether it is to have the energy and emotional muscle to choose the right foods for you, or to make time to exercise, or not to speed when you're driving, or to say no when you need to, or say yes when you need to, or something else... I believe we lose our energy to hold to our own value and self care when we're overwhelmed. My hypothesis is, if we put government and other funds into healing families from trauma, we would have far less domestic violence, traffic violations, bullying, homelessness, eating disorders, addictions and crime. This is my dream... because then I believe we will have the flow on, because when we feel accepted, safe, nourished to be our whole self, we have energy to do what is difficult. Just like when we were young, or in love, our energy flows and we can stretch ourselves out of our comfort zone. So many people do not recognise or realise that they are enduring and in the stress response. We minimise the impact on ourself and think trauma or stress is what happens to others and what we are going through is not as bad. So we don't realise when we are overfull. We have not had the support or skills to release our stress and it keeps building. Our system becomes depleted and then adrenal fatigue sets in, or injuries, getting sick or depression. Reach out to a skilled mind body trauma skilled practitioner. Some professionals can talk about stress and trauma but they don't know how to be with the brain and body. They impose beliefs, attitudes and behaviours which may sound good or rational but they are not where you are. Find someone who knows how to be where you are and can walk with you through the fog.